Being Right About the Wrong Things

I often find that I want to be right about the wrong thing.

I I’ll give you an example — The other day I got upset at my partner. He had a random business idea that came out of left field. I got frustrated because it seemed like a waste of time. Shortly after, I gathered evidence to prove he was a subpar partner and we were not a good fit. I dug into my memory bank going back to old fights and events where I couldn’t trust him. I wanted to be right (he is a loser) about the wrong thing (I am too good for him and should leave).

That inner turmoil left me feeling anxious, shitty and like a righteous controlling partner.

In my professional life, I find myself doing the same thing. I want to be right that I can’t have a thriving career and subsequently don’t take action on things that would grow my business. And then I’m right about not being good enough. Silly and backwards.

I want to be right that I can’t trust my boyfriend and that I can’t make my business work. Except I don’t! Wacky huh?!

Where in your life are you trying to be right about the wrong thing?

What do you get out of being right?

What’s being right costing you?